Recently reconnected with a college friend due to a few things.
We haven't seen each other for more than ten years, and now that he is doing well in his professional field and is particularly good, he looks back at himself and feels as if he has accomplished nothing, and his heart feels particularly bad, and his sense of inferiority comes up all of a sudden.
Originally, I have always felt that my work is quite smooth, easy and stable, and my family is also harmonious and happy, but after talking with my classmates, I suddenly feel that I have been "muddling through" all these years, wasting a lot of time, and I seem to be particularly unproductive.
Now the whole person is very confused, always blame yourself, emotional ups and downs. Sometimes full of blood, buy a bunch of professional books, pick up the English vocabulary want to graduate school exams; sometimes paralyzed brush the phone, do not want to do anything ......
Completely lost the usual good attitude, easy to lose temper, a moment and then listless. What's wrong with me? This state for almost half a month, emotional instability and also tossed himself a cold, what should I do?
My friend, first of all, I would like to give you a warm hug. I heard you say that you feel like you're "wasting your time" and not accomplishing anything when you compare yourself to your college classmates, but is that really the case?
You said that you have a "smooth working life and a happy family", which means that you have established a family and a business after graduating for more than ten years, with a stable career and a harmonious family, and your current living condition actually meets your initial expectations. To be honest, it's not easy to manage both work and family satisfactorily at the same time. From a certain point of view, you are already a very successful person, right? Take family happiness for example, how many people dare to pat themselves on the back and say that nowadays?
So, you have definitely not wasted or accomplished nothing in the past ten years or so. You've managed your job with ease on your own, and you've maintained your family relationships, which is an achievement that many people would envy!
You mentioned that that student is very good at his profession, but think about it, everyone has different goals in life and takes different paths. Why don't you take a moment to ask yourself: what do you really want? What are your personal, family and career goals? Listen to your inner voice. Now that society's definition of success is becoming more and more diverse, don't let a single standard tie your hands.
I wish you the best of luck in being your authentic self and being happy every day!
