First of all, when my son and I were riding in the car, he backed up to let us out of the car and almost hit us. As a result, he went on a rampage, calling me blind and looking for death, and even tried to hit me. The atmosphere was quite harmonious when I came back from my in-laws' house before, but he often has such sudden emotional outbursts like this and has a fit when things go wrong.
The second thing, he works in the community, the unit leader needs to open a certificate, I consult him, he complained on the phone that I meddle in the business, but also said that the leader engaged in privilege. The leader was right next to me, listening clearly, making me embarrassed, and really worried about whether I would be given small shoes in the future.
But strangely enough, he was particularly passionate about the people in his community, and I couldn't figure out why.
In the third incident, he scolded his child and beat him up because he didn't eat his cooking.
It's been many years and similar things have happened over and over again, I'm totally disillusioned and want to get a divorce, so let's give some advice.
You've really suffered with this marriage. Hugs to you.
I suggest you get a divorce as soon as possible.
First, he's bad for you and the kids.
? He disrespects you, is constantly verbally abusive, and has no regard for your feelings.
He never admits he's at fault and always blames you for bad things and makes you take the blame.
He has committed acts of domestic violence that have physically and mentally harmed you, which is already against the law.
He even beats his children, and the children's physical and mental health and growth will be affected in this kind of family environment.
Secondly, he has a big problem with himself.
? He has poor emotional control, is impulsive, and has difficulty suppressing anger.
As you can see from these three incidents, he is particularly facetious and cannot accept that others see his incompetence, even his closest family members.
He has both an inferiority complex and pride: he is unwilling to admit his mistakes and does not accept his incompetence. He always tries to maintain a strong image and disguises himself with brutal violence. Because of his low self-esteem, he elevates his family status by suppressing you.
He's too proud to think he's right, and he can't change that long ago. No one can change a man if he doesn't want to change.
Third, and most importantly, you are unhappy in this marriage.
Think about it, why were you with him in the first place, why did you get married? This outcome now is certainly not what you wanted.
In fact, you already have the answer within you, you just need to be a little more determined.
You said you once had fantasies about him. Alas, women who love too much are easily hurt.
The fact that you used the word "fantasy" shows that you've given up on him and recognized reality, which is really great! ???
It is important to understand that fantasizing about a stubborn person only hurts you.
You fantasize that he'll be good, that he'll be good to you. But what about him? What has he done for this family?
Fourth, looking back, do you feel like a failure in your marriage? Hugs to you ~ you're right.
No matter what you go through, it's all part of life and the sweet and sour will pass. Marriage is not a competition, there are no winners or losers. It's just a stop on life's journey, and even if it's not pretty, it allows you to grow.
"May there be enough cloudiness in your life to cause a beautiful twilight."
wish you all the best! (when signing off on a correspondence)
The world and I love you! ??????
