19-year-old girl, after filling out the college entrance examination volunteering mood has been very irritable? ,
It's only been a week since the college entrance exams ended, and my mom started pushing me every day to read information about volunteering.
Almost every morning when I woke up after breakfast, she came to call once, and again as soon as she saw me playing with my cell phone, an unusually high number of times. At first I could bear it, but then it became more and more urgent.
I know she's nervous, I was actually nervous about filling out my own application.
I was so relieved to have finished volunteering.
But before it was time to file, my mom was calling me three times a day to check on the filing status.
I've explained so many times that it hasn't been filed yet, but she just won't listen and says I don't care about learning.
Later, I often felt especially annoyed when talking to my mom, and sometimes I lost my temper.
What's wrong with me? Something wrong with the psyche?
Friend: Hello!
? Seeing your message was like meeting in person! I can feel you being affected by your mom's anxiety in your story, sending you a comforting hug through the screen!
? Emotions pass like water flows. When mom keeps pushing you to pay attention to volunteering and filing, her anxiety is already full out, and this anxiety is transmitted to you with pressure so that you have to follow her, and this feeling makes you uncomfortable, so you get irritated and lose your temper.
? We believe that mom meant well and loved you, but there was too much control in her ways that overshadowed the love.
? Boundaries are important in relationships. Keeping your boundaries and not letting others cross them, or not going over them, is a sign of respect for yourself and others.
? When faced with your mom's overwhelming concern, you can choose to accept it and be pulled along, or you can choose to reject it, tell yourself "it's mom's anxiety," and then help your mom alleviate it to the extent that you can control it, rather than getting caught up in it yourself.
? I'm an expert Demoiselle, I hope my advice is helpful! I wish you all the best!
