My best friend has two daughters and a husband who is not in the best of health.
In addition to her busy work every day, she spends the rest of her time on her family, always telling me that she is exhausted. I advised her to take time out to relax, but she always said she didn't have time.
It breaks my heart to see her frowning and going through the motions every day, and I wonder if she's getting depressed. What should I do? How can I really help her?
Hi, how are you friend!
❤ I'm Sunshine and I'm so happy to talk to you! You are so caring about your bestie and she is truly blessed to have a friend like you. I'm sure with your support, she will slowly get better. Let's cheer together!
First, let's rationalize your concerns:
My best girlfriend has two daughters and her husband's health is not very good. In addition to her busy work every day, she spends the rest of her time on her family and always tells me that she is exhausted. I advise her to take time out to relax, but she always says she doesn't have time. Seeing her frown every day, hard to hold on to life, I really feel sorry for her, and wonder if she is about to be depressed. What should I do? How can I really help her? -- From your description, your best friend's behavior is really worrying. How long has this been going on? Has she been to the hospital for a checkup? ......
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In fact, depressive moods are encountered by many people, such as when they are under pressure, encounter setbacks or family changes. If you can slowly return to normal through self-regulation, it is not considered depression.
For your BFF's situation, don't rush to label or overstress just yet, the key is to use the right approach and help her face the current situation properly.
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How can you help your best friend cope with depression?
First, warm her up with honest words. As a best friend, your support is important. Learn something about depression first, accept her for what she is now, don't rush to make her better right away, and stay with her through the downturn.
Second, learn to listen patiently. If she pours out her negative feelings and says she doesn't want to do anything, just listen quietly and don't force her to "snap out of it" or pour chicken soup. Try to understand her feelings, listening itself has a healing effect.
Third, encourage her more for small improvements. Even if she unintentionally hums a song or talks more, it's a sign of improvement. Acknowledge these changes in time so that she feels recognized and supported.
Fourth, take care of yourself and don't let your emotions drag you down. If she is in an unusual situation, politely suggest going to the hospital together for a checkup, but don't force it. Respect her wishes and avoid irritating her.
Fifth, there are plenty of resources now and there is always a solution. If she doesn't want to move, don't drag her out the door. You can also recommend professional counseling, such as the platform has a lot of practical methods, or read the book "Embrace Your Depressed Mood", which has very practical tips.
❤ I am the sunshine waiting for you. The world and I love you, depression is like a cold in the mind, let's help your BFF get out of the doldrums and into a new life!
