When our son was 25, we used our life savings to buy a suite, thinking we only had one child, so we registered it directly in his name. When he was 27, we pushed him to find a date. At that time, he was working overseas after graduating from college, so we persuaded him to come home so that we could arrange a blind date. At first he was reluctant, but later agreed to find a good job and came back. I was thinking of helping him to start a family earlier, I can also feel at ease. But who knows the blind date countless times, now almost 30, or not. In the end, he tweeted that he planned to be single for the rest of his life and would not get married, and said that he could not live with us and wanted to live separately. I realized that we might have done something wrong. When he first came back, the family could barely say a few words, but later on, he was like an enemy, he didn't even greet us, and he was indifferent and even hostile to us. When I was sick, he didn't even care about me, and every day after work, he went into the study to play games. I bought psychology books and tried to learn to change, but it didn't work. He still insisted that we move out and rent an apartment. I just couldn't figure out how a child could be so heartless. I'm careful and whispering every day and it still doesn't work. This is clearly my home, should I move or not? I really don't know what to do.
Don't move, on what grounds! It's been said that the root of a child's problems lies with the parents. I think that's very true. No child is born good or bad. A child's character is the result of family upbringing. My son is an adult, thirty years old, his worldview is set, and it's almost impossible to change him. You'd better not be tough with him, or you'll be the ones to suffer and make people look at you funny. If the hard way doesn't work, then try the soft way. There are many ways to do this, for example, you and your husband can act together and pretend to be sick to stimulate his affection; or you can find relatives, teachers, or leaders whom he especially respects to persuade him, and someone will always be able to persuade him. If your son doesn't do any work at home, except going to work or playing games, then I suggest you find an excuse, such as going for a medical checkup or traveling, and go out to live for a while. If he can't take care of himself at home, he will remember your goodness and look forward to your return, and his attitude may improve. Your own son, you know best, find his weaknesses, flexible treatment, I believe the relationship will improve.
