It's been almost half a year since I came to Shanghai at the age of 28, and I'm getting more and more anxious about my work and life, what should I do?
After graduation, I worked in an accounting firm in Hangzhou for four years, and that job was so busy that I felt I couldn't do it for the rest of my life, and the income didn't quite match the effort, so this year I jumped ship to a company in Shanghai.
I've been in Shanghai for almost half a year.
1. I often miss my former colleagues and work environment, we are basically the same graduation into the job, similar age, get along as natural as friends.
Now that my colleagues in my new company are generally seven or eight years older than me, and all of them have already started their own families, I feel that the communication is just purely coworker relationship and lack of common topics.
2. With less time to work than before, I decided to apply for graduate school to improve myself, but I can't get motivated to study, I'm lazy, and I'm very distressed.
I always thought that since I had switched to an easier job, I had to get my grad school degree to prove that I was still progressing.
3. The new work is not yet fully on the job, if you do it seriously, you can learn a lot, but because of the lack of confidence in the results of the work, but often touch the fish, the efficiency is not high.
4. For career development, my elders suggested that I should meet more people, but I am a bit overwhelmed by my passive personality and I do not know how to take the initiative to build purposeful relationships, nor am I good at maintaining contacts.
5. On the whole, I am confused about the future and anxious about my work ability and career advancement, but I know that there is no hurry, and this contradiction makes people anxious.
Hello:
Work, study, life, these topics sound big, but they are all realities that each of us must face. When you come to Shanghai after changing your familiar environment, you are unfamiliar with the place, and the big city is full of opportunities and pressure. Not knowing how to take the initiative to socialize, feeling confused about the future, these are all very normal. Don't worry, let's talk about it together and hopefully give you some inspiration.
Analyze and understand the problem:
1. Will miss the former colleagues and work environment, we are the same graduation into the job, or before and after the difference of one or two years, the relationship with colleagues, friends. Now the new work colleagues are generally older than you 7.8 years, have families and careers, the feeling is just coworkers!
--There are many firsts in life, and it takes time to go from unfamiliarity to familiarity. This time, coming to a new city, contacting new colleagues and adapting to a new environment will be a challenge for you. Their pace of life, age stage and way of dealing with problems may be unfamiliar to you.
--When your coworkers are putting work first and family first, and you're just starting your second job, it's natural for your mindset and conversation to be different. The loneliness that comes with this difference is something I completely understand.
2. working time is less than before, so decided to enroll in graduate school to improve themselves, but found that the revision of motivation is not enough, no chicken blood, still lazy, very distressed
-- Studying for a degree is a good way to improve, and a degree does reflect a person's efforts. Like I'm still studying in my thirties, I'm tired but don't want to give up because there's always a goal to chase.
--I understand the ambivalence of wanting to take action but not being able to do so. 28 years old and approaching the stage of thirty, life is prone to a kind of inexplicable panic, the traditional concepts invariably remind us of "time to mature".
--This transition period itself is not easy, anxiety and overwhelm are common, don't be too hard on yourself.
3. The new work has not yet been thoroughly mastered, and it should be possible to learn a lot by doing a good job, but because of the lack of confidence in the results of the work, there are a lot of fish in the sea instead.
--With a job that hasn't stabilized yet and the stress of studying, it's really easy to get overwhelmed when you're stuck in the middle. In fact, things can come one piece at a time, it's okay to be slow, the key is to keep taking action.
4. For your future career development, your elders gave you the advice to meet more people, but you are rather passive in socializing, you don't know how to take the initiative to establish purposeful relationships, and you are not very good at taking the initiative to maintain relationships, so you don't know what to do.
--The experience of elders has reference value, but each environment is different. Passive personality is not a disadvantage. Network building does not necessarily mean casting a wide net, the key is to find a way that suits you. In the workplace, profit-driven is common, but sincere interaction is more important.
5. Overall, I am quite confused about the future, and I am very anxious about my work ability and career advancement, but I can't rush it.
--You're already sober enough to realize that there's no rush. 28 years old, unmarried, job insecurity, and stuck in a learning rut all contribute to anxiety. Why don't you make a rough plan first and take it step by step, direction is more important than speed.
Conclusion: Good luck finding your rhythm and being happy soon! Feel free to communicate privately if you have more questions!
