Our family is a pretty normal working family with average conditions.
But since I was a kid, my mom has always talked about how poor the family is and how hard it is to make ends meet, but strangely enough, she spends a lot of money on food and clothing. That's why I've never been able to figure out why she says that if she doesn't have money, she'll ask for it, but when I do ask for money, I either get scolded or listen to her complain endlessly. When I ask for money, I either get scolded or listen to her complaining endlessly. When she asks for reasonable requests, such as buying school supplies, she always says that it's a waste of money and that I don't know what I'm doing. What stresses me out even more is that before I go to college, she lets me earn some of my own living expenses, so I have to worry about college expenses now.
Last night I hid under the covers and cried in secret because I wanted to change my cell phone and buy a laptop after the college entrance exams, and I had saved up some money from my part-time job and tried to get my mom to sponsor $2,000 for the computer, but I was turned down. Once again, she told me that I had to cover some of my own living expenses for college, and repeatedly complained about the difficulties at home.
I've told my mom that it's hard for me when she complains so much all the time, but she always says, "That's the way it is at home, and I'm telling you because I want you to understand sooner, and I'm not forcing you to go to work to earn money."
I know my mom loves me, but that's what makes me wonder even more why.
Hello, I'm Summer Sugar, as a heart coach, I can feel the trouble in your growth. On one hand, your mom says you can find her if you need money, but on the other hand, she refuses your requests and always complains, which is a contradiction that must make you feel bad in your heart.
So what should we make of this situation?
[Mother's contradictory behavior may be related to her past.]
This contradiction and complaint may manifest itself in every aspect of her life, and is actuallyShe's an expression of her life.Because they are not satisfied with the status quo, they use complaints tovent, this may be an emotional outlet for mom, not something that is specifically directed at you or you asking for money. Learning more about your mom's life experiences may help you understand why she is like this. It's clear that you are an emotionally delicate person, and even though you are often rejected and complained about, you still recognize your mom's love. This understanding can help you be more at peace.
[Look at this way of being together for a change.]
You told your mom it would affect you, and it's true, it might make you sad, but it alsoIt makes you more independent., such as making your own money on the side and planning your life. It's not all bad, is it?
[Handle your emotional stress rationally]
From your description, it seems that mom is very important in the family. When she's always complaining and making you pay for college, you feel pressure that builds up and needs to be released. You can start by finding ways to relax yourself, such as journaling or exercising.
For a deeper understanding of your relationship with your mom, it is recommended to do it on the platform "Fannie's Drawing Test" or "Family of Origin Wound Test".These tests will help you assess your psychological state and analyze your family's influence. Click on myAnswer the link belowIt will take you to the home page to book an appointment or test. I'm heart scouting coach SUMMER SUGAR and I'm always waiting for you when you need help.
