I'm about to graduate, I have to find a job, while preparing for the civil service examination, but also have to cope with the enterprise examination, but the heart is always in a state of confusion, not a precise plan.
The enterprise examination is completely forced by my family to go, I am not interested at all. I'm not interested in it at all, but I'm not financially independent yet, so I can only do what I'm told. I tried to communicate with my parents several times, but they always think they are right, and do not listen to my ideas.
I don't have any idea about the business exam, I don't know anything about the professional knowledge, and I can't even figure out what the scope of the exam is. I don't know anything about the professional knowledge, and I can't even figure out what the scope of the exam is. I don't have any idea about the career exam either, and I'm so anxious that I feel like I've fallen into a dead end.
I can't help but go on a shopping spree whenever I get anxious.
It's clear that you don't need that much stuff, but the more anxious you get, the more you buy.
And picking the expensive ones to buy, and then trying to resell them later, you must have to lose a huge amount of money.
It's especially hard on the heart, it's like spinning in a vicious circle.
I was thinking that once I got a job and had the money, I could control my shopping cravings, but suddenly I had to take a corporate exam at the end of the month, and it was annoying as hell, and the whole plan was disrupted.
Originally said with the family to concentrate on preparing for the examination of institutions, today my parents changed their minds again and insisted that I go to the examination of enterprises.......annoyed, really want to give up the examination, but also can not.
I feel like I can't get away with it, but I don't know how to take the test, so I'm just going to be embarrassed.
It's like the only thing that will make me feel better for a while is buying something.
Hello friend~ Anxiety is actually a very normal emotion, especially when you're facing a big life event like graduation or finding a job. However, if the anxiety is too strong and you don't know how to deal with it, you may cope with it in unhealthy ways, such as the shopping spree you mentioned. Shopping is like an escapist tool that can temporarily make you feel better because the brain releases dopamine when you buy something, bringing a brief moment of happiness. But it's only a superficial effort, and in the long run it doesn't solve the problem at all. Instead, it puts you under more financial pressure and more self-doubt, creating a vicious cycle. In your current situation, there are a few things that make you more anxious: you're about to graduate, and you have to deal with both the public exam and the enterprise exam, both of which are quite difficult. You're not sure about the corporate exam because you don't know what you're going to do because you don't know your specialty, and this uncertainty naturally doubles your anxiety. Coupled with the fact that your family forced you to go to the enterprise, you want to focus on business units, economic independence can only obey, communication and useless, this internal and external contradictions make you feel particularly powerless. To manage anxiety, you have to find some healthier ways to shop instead. For example, try positive thinking or meditation, spend 15-20 minutes a day deep breathing, focus on the present moment, slowly can reduce the dependence on shopping. Exercise is also a good way to reduce stress. Walking, running, yoga can all reduce stress, and when you exercise your body releases chemicals that make you happy. Talk to your friends, share your feelings and cheer each other up. Break big goals into small steps, such as reviewing a little bit of your expertise each day to build confidence. Ask yourself if you really need it before you go shopping, set a budget, and keep score to control your spending. When communicating with your parents, speak your mind calmly and start with "I", for example, "I feel anxious because I'm not sure about the business exam, and I'd rather focus on preparing for the career center", and try to find a compromise, such as focusing on the career center first, and then consider something else if it doesn't work. Try to find a compromise, such as focusing on the career first, and then consider something else. If the communication is stuck, you can ask the school teacher to help mediate. There are always hurdles in life, the key is how to deal with them positively. It's great that you've realized the problem and want to change it. I wish you the best of luck in the future and find your own balance!
