My husband and I have been married for five years, but because of his work schedule, he is only able to be home about ten days a month. I myself work all year round, which results in us seeing each other exceptionally little. The most embarrassing thing is that we don't seem to have much in common, and I don't think about him, so every time we talk on the phone, we're cold and don't know what to talk about. He also suspects that I am not having an affair, but I really do not have ah! What should I do in this situation?
Hello, sir.
Due to the unique nature of your husband's job, the two of you are together and away from each other, which is a challenge that many couples face. It's not uncommon to have no daily companionship or things to do together, just like roommates who see each other occasionally and make do with a few days a month, so naturally it's hard to find a common language.Neither party feels valued by the other and emotional needs are not met. Over time, you may get used to digesting your emotions on your own and stop expecting support from him. He, on the other hand, still expects you to give him emotional comfort, but you can't give it anymore. So, he feels left out by you and jumps to the conclusion that you've changed your mind, which is actually a reaction to his inner need for care.
The responsibility for the maintenance of this relationship is not all on you alone. It takes two people to work together to improve it.Suggestion one, and husband find a time to communicate frankly once, to each other's feelings, expectations are spread out to say clearly. For the current work situation, together to make a list, agreed every time you go home to complete things together, such as watching a movie, dating a meeting or something, together to achieve.
Suggestion two, see if you can adjust your work schedule to reduce this state of being together and away from each other. This needs to be discussed and decided on the basis of your actual conditions.Suggestion three, women often need to put more effort into relationship management. It is recommended to take emotional courses or communication skills to improve their ability to express themselves, which can also bring couples closer together.
Marriages with little time apart need to be managed with care, and both parties must work together.
