My boyfriend is from out of state and has an average family, a little less than my family. My mom has always been against us dating, mainly because he is from out of town. My sister also said that his education is not high and his job is not too good, and she thinks he has little prospect for development. No one in my family supports me, and they always force me to go on blind dates. I am particularly torn in my heart, and want to be with him, but also afraid of the future will regret. Should I give up on him and listen to my mom's arrangement to go on a blind date?
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? Choosing between your boyfriend and your mom really messes up your mind. On one hand, you want to go on with him, but on the other hand, you are worried about various issues. Why don't you take a moment to ask yourself what exactly are you afraid of? Is it the distance, the financial pressure, or the disapproval of your family?
?When choosing a partner, you and your family may have different concerns. Can you really afford all those realities that your family worries about, such as being out of town and financial conditions? Why is there such a big gap between what you know about your boyfriend and what your family sees in him? Which party's view is more objective and real?
? Relationships are for two people, and your boyfriend's attitude is important. How did he respond to his family's objections and questions? Does the way he responds make you feel at ease? This can tell you whether he is trustworthy or not.
? With so many factors to consider, choosing carefully is a sign of responsibility. I'll give you three tips:
?1, family members are thinking about you from their experience, with care behind them. Their opinions can be analyzed rationally, not rejected wholesale or accepted blindly.
?2, respect your heart. When looking for a partner, the material basis is important, but a partner whose heart is connected is more likely to bring long-lasting happiness.
?3, effective communication can resolve conflicts. Family opposition often stems from love, just expressed in different ways, try to talk calmly.
? I'm your sweet buddy and I hope these ideas help! Good luck!
