Today in the office, a coworker needed help, but she didn't come to me and chose another coworker instead. This made me feel a little bit lost in my heart, and I couldn't help but think: am I not very likable?
Hey, buddy!
When a coworker doesn't ask for your help, but finds someone else, you may instantly feel left out.
[About this colleague]
Would you feel the same discomfort if it were any other coworker or acquaintance and they didn't ask for your help? If the feeling is specific to one person, perhaps it means you have a particular expectation or favor with TA.
[Seeking help does not equal popularity]
In life, we are usually more inclined to seek help from our close friends, which seems to imply a close relationship. But don't forget that everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses, and when others ask for help they may choose the most suitable person for their specific needs, rather than just looking at friendship.
Coworker relationships are again unique in that everyone's core goal is to get the job done efficiently, so professionalism is more important when choosing a helper.
[Emotions behind "unpopularity"]
Everyone wants to be liked and valued by the people around them, but we all know that it's impossible to please everyone. It's normal to feel lost or envious of those "kings of popularity" from time to time, but the key is how to adjust your mindset.
Relationships are like a spectrum: some people are particularly fond of you, others have no feelings, and still others may not quite click. It's lucky to meet people who appreciate each other, but most relationships are actually somewhere in the middle and don't need to be over-interpreted.
Don't equate "unpopularity" with self-worth.
When feeling unwelcome, it's easy to associate yourself with not being good enough. But remember that other people's choices may not be directed at you - it may just be a chance decision in the situation at hand.
When faced with this situation, some people will curry favor and pander, some will laugh it off, and some will use it for self-improvement. Most importantly, don't let a momentary emotion negate your unique value.
Take it easy!
We're all growing up.
