Always in a state of suspicion and suffering, feeling that I lack the courage and ability to face difficulties.
Good afternoon, my friend! I'm Will the counselor.
Your question is rather brief, mentioning "paranoid" and "obsessive", is this how you would characterize yourself?
"Worried things happen", what exactly are those things? Can you elaborate? When we are able to talk freely about the things and emotions that have built up inside us, through catharsis, those repressed negative emotions can be relieved to a certain extent.
"Always in a state of paranoia and uncertainty, lacking the courage and ability to face difficulties."The more specific the problem, the easier it is to solve. This description seems to be an expression of a self-psychological state with no antecedents, so it is difficult to give targeted advice in context and with your support system.
Is there an inevitable connection between being suspicious, suffering from a fear of something happening and worrying about it? From a psychological point of view, there is; but from a logical point of view, it may depend on probability and there is not necessarily a direct logical relationship. Why do I say so? There is a folk saying that "what you fear comes to you", the more suspicious you are and the more you worry, when something bad happens, the greater the psychological impact on you, and the brain will selectively pay attention to and memorize those things that have a great emotional impact on us, while ignoring those situations that we are not worried about.
In the absence of objective judgment and rational thinking, this state of mind can create a "vicious cycle". Of course, this cycle can be broken, depending on your current environment, support system, physical and mental health, and many other factors. In view of the time constraints, I would like to make a few suggestions for your consideration:
(1) Self-help relaxation through meditation or mindfulness practice to make the body and mind less tense.
(2) Review the periods and events when you were less paranoid and in a good mental state, and make a list of them to positively boost your confidence in coping with difficulties.
(3) As mentioned earlier, make the problem specific, the more specific the better. Write down the things that bother you, list your strengths and weaknesses, play to your strengths and avoid your weaknesses.
(4) Become aware of any irrational automated thinking, and refer to a CBT self-help article on my homepage to adjust some negative cognitions.
The above is all I can think of at the moment, the world and I love you!
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