My sister is 15 years old and in high school, and she lives alone in another city. Although the two cities are not far from each other, she rarely comes home.
My sister was obedient and understanding as a child, but went through a rebellious period in middle school. Now that she's in high school, she sometimes loses her temper out of the blue with her family, and sometimes she keeps her emotions bottled up inside.
She told me that she always cared about one thing: once when she went back home, her mother talked to her aunt about her junior high school rebellion, and she was very upset, so she got angry, and as a result, her mother told her aunt that she was "sick". Although mom may have just said it casually, but my sister has always remembered it in her heart.
She says that lately it's been especially hard on her heart, and she even thinks of images of blood and violence, and she's a little turned off by her mom.
But mom is good to us and she gives a lot to her family. I want to enlighten my sister when she comes home next time.
Hello! Sending you a warm hug through the air first. I'm so glad to see your plea for help and I hope my sharing can give you some support. From your description, I can feel your deep love for your sister.
For her sister, who is in high school, she overheard her mother and aunt talking about her previous rebellious behavior and her mother labeled her negatively. This makes her sister feel disrespected and understood, aggrieved and angry. In particular, the sister believes that this is a family matter that shouldn't be known to outsiders, and that she may feel guilty about her overreaching behavior back then. When her mom told others, her sister felt ashamed and was afraid that it would affect her good image in other people's minds. What do you think?
As an older sister, you can take the initiative to talk to your sister and find out what is really behind her reluctance to come home, but don't judge her feelings so that she feels fully accepted and understood from you.
Some of my sister's rebellious behavior during her adolescence may have broken her mom's heart, but that doesn't mean she didn't love her. It's just that she couldn't deal with her emotions at the time and took it out on her closest family because she knew they would tolerate her. What do you say? So, you have to believe that your sister loves her mom.
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