My brother has been suffering from depression lately, always having insomnia at night and a particularly disorganized routine.
He usually only works part-time on weekends and stays in his dormitory to write calligraphy at other times. The unstable income has made him more anxious lately, and he also suffers from panic attacks and chest tightness. Although the EKG test is fine, he always suspects that he has a serious illness.
Being in a state of nervousness and fear all day, I can't sleep at night and hardly rest during the day.
And sometimes he talks to himself, as if he's talking to another person.
Emotions go up and down, one minute you're especially excited, the next you feel worthless.
It's almost like he's losing faith in life! I have a bit of depressive tendencies myself, he didn't pay much attention to his family before, but he's always pulling me in for a chat these days.
It's hard to see him like this, but I know I'm limited in what I can do.
Understand better that you have to be especially careful about communicating with depressed people.
I really want to help him, what is the best way to communicate and guide him?
Hello building owner:
It's really heartwarming to see how much you care for and support your brother. But it's important to keep an eye on your own state while taking care of him:
1. When caring for your brother, don't forget to take care of yourself. Some family members may feel powerless or frustrated because of the patient's emotions. If the heart is not strong enough, it is easy to be affected by low self-esteem or confusion.
2. Support should be provided in an appropriate manner. Sometimes silent accompaniment without excessive intervention can reduce his anxiety and help him get better slowly.
............... You may ask, when is it really ready? The truth is that there is no end to getting stronger, be brave when you need to be brave, at least you have someone to watch over, which gives you a reason to hang in there and face life more positively.
---- Although you have to be careful, the owner is not a professional psychiatrist, so don't expect too much of yourself and trust your abilities. As a family member, you are much easier to integrate into your brother's life than a poor doctor who just preaches!
～～～～ I heard that he ignored his family before, but now he always comes to you for a chat, which means you have earned his trust and made him feel your warmth. Even if you feel like a tool, that's exactly what family gives.
He will be able to appreciate your concern, it's just that guys are often not good at expressing it.
After all, your lives are at a distance, his world is full of disappointment, he's dissatisfied with his job and he's afraid of his family meddling too much.
//// On the one hand, he needs companionship, but on the other hand, he is afraid of dragging others down and worried about not being understood. He has a lot to say and is confused about the future.
So will share the pain by talking to yourself and pretending that another person comforts you.
The following methods may help you:
1. Unfortunately, depression is difficult to eradicate completely, but it can be alleviated. Don't be in a hurry, we can learn to be less sensitive.
I think depression is like the shadows or the darkness of the night, which is frightening but finds safety in the darkness so that one can sleep well.
2. Depression is often accompanied by high levels of stress, self-doubt, failures at work, broken friendships and love, or unfulfilled dreams.
So one has to find out the core of the brother's problem. If the job is not going well, you can change jobs or upgrade your skills.
Emotional problems can't be solved by one person, let go when it's time to let go, let go of others and let go of yourself.
Dream-wise, many successful people start out underappreciated as well. It's always better to stick with it and get closer to your goals.
3. Stable, secure companionship is more effective than noisy "for your own good". As a family member, you are more acceptable to him and more attentive than some purposeful professional.
------- have experienced separation, we better understand the preciousness of reunion; through the darkness, only to cherish the warmth of light; tasted the pain of failure, only to see the side of the people who have been supporting us. I've seen the people around me who have been supporting us all along.
Of course, if the problem is too tricky, leave it to the professionals.
I believe that the owner, although not strong enough right now, will become more confident because of the people she has to protect. Go for it, we're all behind you!
