Most of my previous relationships ended after a year or so, and I always thought it was because I hadn't met the right person. But this time, after being with my current boyfriend for less than ten months, I'm starting to get bored and now I don't really want to date him and even kind of avoid seeing him. Although he is especially considerate to me and goes along with everything, and says I'll see him when I want to, I know he's actually quite hurt inside. I don't want to break up easily, and I'm beginning to wonder if I have a problem with relationships, so how can I adjust to this situation?
Hi, Mr. Owner.
From your sharing I can feel your tangle and uneasiness, you and your boyfriend together for nine months, he is obviously very good, but you appear to be burned out, both do not want to hurt him, but also do not know what to do, this kind of ambivalence is very normal.
? You can look back at your upbringing and previous relationships to see if certain patterns are influencing you, such as not getting along, or you don't know how to stay close, or maybe other personal reasons.
? Start by quieting yourself down and thinking about what your ideal relationship looks like, and whether your current state meets your expectations. Have more inner conversations with yourself about what you really want, this will help you get a clearer picture of yourself.
Also, talk to a trusted friend and get their perspective, sometimes an outsider can see the problem at a glance and give you practical advice.
?You can notice your boyfriend's emotions, which shows that you care about him, you might as well communicate with him openly, share your feelings, give each other a little space to think calmly, and then decide what to do next when you figure it out.
I hope the owner can find the direction soon and face it easily~
