Have you ever wondered where our attitudes toward things come from? Let's talk about those major influences today.
Hello, owner, I'm the whale social worker.
I'm excited to share my thoughts with you, and I hope they've inspired you to do something new.
First, attitude formation can be viewed in several ways:
? First, our innate character sensitivity.
I don't know if you've ever heard of a Type 9 personality?
It is mentioned in this book that the sensitivity of one's nervous system affects how much we pay attention to particular things. It is because of these differences that we have different styles of handling things.
? Second, attitudes also derive from acquired experiences and experiences.
There is a saying that "people are slaves to their past experiences", which just goes to show how life experiences can shape how we perceive the same thing at different stages.
For example, when your first love fails at the age of 20, you may feel that the sky is falling. But after a few years of rich experience, you will understand that love is a kind of karmic process, there is a fate to become.
In a few years, you may come to a deeper realization: all relationships have a beginning and an end, and things have to end sometime.
If you go through a loss of love or divorce again, you will gain a deeper appreciation.
This shows that life experiences and experiences deeply influence our attitudes.
? Third, by learning, understanding, and analyzing the laws of the world, we develop our own ways of coping and build values based on them.
For example, if your child is naughty and doesn't follow the rules, but by learning about parenting, you know how to nurture him and thus develop your own parenting attitude.
? Fourth, logic often hides emotions behind it. So judging people from logic alone is not comprehensive, and needs to be viewed holistically. Refer to the whole brain theory: the left brain is responsible for logic, the right brain deals with emotions, only when the left and right brain work in harmony, the behavior will be more healthy and thorough.
This area involves whole brain science, specifically read Danny Siegel's The Whole Brain Approach to Parenting.
? Fifth, the perspectives of others can also give us new stimuli and inspiration.
Just like in school, teachers and classmates give us feedback on what we say and do, right? We naturally learn to think differently and establish good interpersonal boundaries, which leads to more acceptance and support.
I hope these ideas provide you with some new perspectives.
❤ The world and I love you, I'm a whale social worker fairy fairy~
