Interpersonal problems, no friends in a new environment for a long time? ,
I am a person, in dealing with people is always a little bit of a loose, encountered unfamiliar faces, rarely take the initiative to go up to say hello, always used to wait for the other side to approach me first.
When I arrived at the new place, I didn't make any friends for a while. In fact, in my heart, I would like to meet new friends, but I am too shy, and it makes me feel depressed.
Usually always hiding from the crowd, not really enjoying being the center of attention.
For example, when I interviewed for a job I wasn't nervous at all and even had a little something to look forward to, but as soon as I entered the new company I retreated back into my comfort zone.
Hello owner: After reading what you shared, I can especially understand how you feel, I really want to give you a cheer, I hope what I said below can help you a little...
This state you are experiencing is actually an emotion of loneliness. Simply put, loneliness is that empty feeling that bubbles up in your heart when the wall separates you from the outside world and you feel left out or rejected.
This loneliness doesn't just make you avoid people more, it also deepens the distance from society, and the further the distance, the greater the loneliness, which can easily become alienating over time, and in severe cases, even affect your mood.
Why do you feel lonely? There are three main reasons:
First, the impact of the environment. Interviews when there are few people, you can relax and chat, anyway, into or out of Chengdu does not matter; but after work more colleagues, afraid of saying the wrong thing, afraid of being stared at, afraid of their own ability is not enough, this pressure is easy to feel lonely.
Secondly, it is related to your character. You belong to the introverted type, not too accustomed to express yourself, not willing to reveal your true feelings, like to stay alone, but at the bottom of your heart, you especially hope that someone can understand you. When this desire is not satisfied, you will feel lost and annoyed, and loneliness comes.
Third, you are missing some social confidence and skills. You don't know how to get close to people, so it's hard to make close friends, and loneliness naturally haunts you.
My advice is to try to be brave and don't worry too much about what others think. If you dare to take the first step, you may find a lot of surprises behind you. Cheer yourself up and play to your strengths. Don't be afraid to make mistakes, after all, failure is the mother of success.
In addition, on the one hand, you can treat loneliness as a small spice of life, and learn to properly enjoy being alone; on the other hand, you can slowly improve your self-confidence and social skills to break this cycle of loneliness, and feel the warmth of interpersonal interactions and the beauty of life.
I hope these thoughts of mine have inspired you...
