My son is almost 8 weeks old and our family has lived in the Fiji Islands for years. The boy came over to live with us when he was 2 years old and has been with us for 5 or 6 years now.
In recent months he has always told me that he is afraid of Fijians, that they look like bad people.
Usually when we walk on the road, he reminds me, "Mommy, be careful, don't get hit by a car." He is also very cautious when crossing the street himself, always staying away from cars.
When riding in the elevator, he would say, "I'm always worried that the elevator is going to fall." When I drove, he would also urge me to drive slowly.
I don't even want to go to the grocery store anymore, I just like to stay home. Going out on weekends is fine, other times I don't want to go out at all.
He wasn't like this before. I want to ask what's going on. What should I do? By the way, there have been recent changes in the family.
A year ago, I had my second baby, who is now a year old. About 6 months ago, my oldest son was bitten by a dog and it was pretty bad. He said himself that he's always scared after being bitten by a dog, but I'm not sure if that's the reason.
Also, when my child was about 5-6 years old, he used to wake up in the middle of the night, shaking, sweating and saying he was scared. At the time, I couldn't find out why after half a dozen tests, and then it slowly got better, but now it still happens occasionally.
This is the current situation of my child. I would like to ask the doctor, is this normal for him? What should I do? Should I take him to a psychiatrist?
?Hello, first of all, a warm hug to you and please pass this love to your child as well. I can feel your deep love and understanding for your child and I am glad to share my thoughts here. I am Shuya Chingzheng and here are my thoughts.
?1, accompanied by love to help children grow up
?01, an 8 year old, exhibits these behaviors:
? Says Fijians look like bad people.
? Reminds you to "be careful, don't get hit by a car."
? Driving a car that tells you to slow down.
? Doesn't like to go out, likes to stay home.
? A year ago a second baby was added to the family.
? I was bitten by a dog about 6 months ago and it was a bit severe.
? Had frequent night terrors at 5-6 years old, shaking, sweating, and talking about being scared.
?02, as you can see from these, the child is clearly insecure. I would suggest getting help from a counselor and also need your love, patience and companionship to encourage him.
?2, teach by example and be there for more encouragement
The age of 8-10 is a critical period for children's personality formation. At this time they already have their own opinions and can judge right and wrong. Parents can observe Fijians with their children, guide him to the right way of looking at them, and allow him to express his feelings to help him see the good in negative experiences.
Dad's company is especially important. Doing games or activities together, overcoming small obstacles, and letting your child feel his dad's bravery and strength can greatly enhance his sense of security.
Parents should usually set a good example and respect their child's choices, so as to lay a good foundation for his personality development. The experience of being bitten by a dog scares even adults, not to mention that the child has a past of night terrors, indicating that he is more sensitive and may be traumatized. Parents need to be attentive to help him come out.
That's why I recommend seeing a professional psychotherapist, where parents and experts work together to help children accept the hurt, repair their hearts with love, and develop a sense of security and strength. The earlier the intervention, the better.
? the world and I love you, I hope these tips help.
