I'm usually pretty nice to people, and when people are nice to me, I make sure to return the favor twice as much. But sometimes I seem a bit cold, actually because I don't know what to talk about, maybe people misunderstand that I don't want to talk, right? Thinking about it gives me a headache. Sometimes I feel okay about relationships, but sometimes I feel especially insecure, always afraid that people will leave me. There are also some friends who have low emotional intelligence, which makes me quite annoyed. What's wrong with me, please answer.
Hi! First of all, I'd like to give you a virtual hug and I'm glad to see you sharing. Your request for help makes me think that you are brave and willing to face your troubles, which in itself is the first step towards growth. I hope my advice gives you some support and inspiration.
In fact, our relationships with others often reflect the way we relate to ourselves. If you're too hard on yourself, always dissatisfied or critical of yourself, but don't realize it, it's easy to project that onto others and feel like they won't accept the real you either.
So the things you say are troubling you, like insecurity or fear of abandonment, are more about your inner feelings at work and not necessarily what others really think. What do you think?
How you want others to treat you, you have to learn to treat yourself and others that way first. Because your behavior will invariably affect the way others treat you.
If a friend's words or actions make you uncomfortable or hurt you, try to be brave enough to say what you really feel and need in that moment. Let them know that their unintentional actions hurt you so you can protect yourself, after all, no one has the right to just upset you.
It's also important to practice more self-acceptance, develop self-confidence, and improve your sense of self-worth. When you recognize yourself from the inside out and believe that you deserve to be treated well, you won't care too much about what others think. Because you know exactly who you are.
I'm Lily, the little psychiatric assistant, and the world and I are rooting for you.
