I have suffered a lot of blows in the past, and now when I think back, my heart is still drumming, because of those experiences of suppression, I unconsciously became a person who always wants to please others, and I am afraid of others rejecting me as well as me rejecting others. What's even worse is that I can't help thinking about things I don't want to think about, and I feel so tired that sometimes I don't even want to live anymore.
Hello, my friend.
I can especially understand how you feel. After we've been hurt, we tend to put a protective shell over ourselves and maintain relationships in a pleasing way for fear of offending someone. But that's actually quite stifling, isn't it? You're not having a good time yourself.
Although catering to others can reduce friction and make you seem well liked, over time you will slowly forget what you really seek in life, what kind of friends you like to make, and what kind of circles you want to fit into.
So, we need to have the courage to be hated. Be brave enough to say no to requests that make you difficult and aggravated, and don't feel burdened. Because it wasn't your responsibility in the first place, you're just saying no to something you shouldn't have to carry.
Cultivating this kind of courage requires being stronger on the inside. It may be lonely for a while, with a few less friends, but learn to accept your imperfect self and understand that no one can be everyone's cup of tea; some people appreciate you and others may not be too impressed.
Cheer up oh~ I'm Tatsuhi, the little ear of the Q&A Hall, the world and I love you ╭❤~
