I want to get my boyfriend back, but I don't know how to do it, so painful how to do it.
I've been particularly grumpy lately, and I'm always getting into arguments with my boyfriend, which has led to him filing for a breakup.
He said to me, "You have to remember that the earth revolves without anyone, and anyone can live without anyone. You don't need to change anything for me, take care of yourself first. I don't have the determination that I have to be with you anymore, my attitude has changed, and I will only disappoint you more if I go on like this.
Separation is good for both of us.
I hope your next partner won't fail you or let you down, I'm sorry, let's get along." After that he blacked out my cell phone number and I contacted him through a friend and couldn't get through on the phone.
He sent a message to a friend said don't interfere in our business, to see our own attitude; and called another friend said we broke up, something texting don't call. I used QQ to build a small number and sent him messages every day.
I want to save the relationship but I don't know what to do and it's especially hard on my heart.
Hello friend, I'm strawberry.
★ Saw your share and first a warm hug to you. You said you've been short-tempered lately, are you experiencing some kind of stress or trouble in your life? People don't lose control of their emotions for no reason. It may be that certain things make you anxious inside before you unconsciously lash out at your boyfriend.
★We often behave decently in front of outsiders, but leave the negative emotions to those close to us, always thinking that they can be infinitely tolerant, but except for family members, who choose to leave when they can't take it anymore.
Let me remember that the earth will still turn without anyone, who can live without anyone, and I don't have to do anything for him, take care of yourself in the meantime, and he doesn't have the determination to be with me anymore, and his attitude has changed will also make me more and more disappointed. This is not bad for either of us. I hope that the next lover will not fail me will not let me down sorry me to get together.
★ From your boyfriend's paragraph, I see more of his response to your request. For example, "I won't let you down" and "I won't let you down", which could be that your accusations during the argument made him feel pressured, so he thought it was necessary to separate and calm down.
★ The fact that you insist on chatting with him using a small QQ number shows that you don't want to give up on the relationship. Your boyfriend's attitude seems like a moment of anger, but perhaps also wants you to reflect on the problem. What exactly triggered the conflict, you as a party should know best.
★ If he goes through friends as soon as he adds you and replies every day, then maybe he knows it's you and is giving you a chance to ease up. You can apologize and test him by chatting.
If he doesn't know that you're the one, but he's chatting with a "strange girl", then we need to consider his motives. Is he trying to find someone new quickly, or is he looking for comfort? You know him as a person, you should be able to judge which is more in line with the situation.
★If it is the first, listen and communicate more to find out the root of the problem. If it is the second, it shows that he is not mature enough to deal with his feelings, and if he does not change, the conflict will only be repeated in the future together.
